Looking at the Other Side
There’s always two sides to every story…right? Isn’t that what we’ve all heard all of our lives?
I’ve always had a natural sense to look at things from the other side. The hubs has that sense too, and has even taught me some things about even more ways of looking at something – maybe there are even more than two sides.
Let’s step back a couple of years.
It was March, 2012, I was working at a law office in Green Bay. I had been there a year and a half, working as a paralegal to two attorneys in the office.
One day that month, I had a breakdown. Both a mental and a physical breakdown. I just couldn’t do it anymore. I spent three days in bed – not necessarily sick, but completely worn out.
I decided that it was the job that was stressing me beyond my limits, so I started looking for a new job.
Side Note: I found out later that one of the other attorneys in the office had me targeted to get rid of me. But that is another post for another day.
I got a new job in place, though I wasn’t real happy about it. It was a job, and I’m all for supporting my family.
I gave my notice of resignation on May 30th, 2012 and my last day of work was June 8th, 2012. They replaced me with two new people. That has happened at just about every job I’ve worked at, but that is another post for another day too.
The New Job
As I mentioned, I wasn’t real enthused about the new job, because I didn’t trust the person I was working for. Because I didn’t trust her, I had her sign an employment agreement that would benefit me if she decided to be the way she had been always been – a jerk.
As expected, the job didn’t last long. I started on June 18th, and I was fired on July 23rd.
Hence, employment agreement to benefit me. I thank God every day that He gave me brains!
For the first time in my life, I was unemployed with no job prospects.
How was I to support my family and pay my bills?
I fought for unemployment compensation and won.
I had kept track of everything that was wrong and unacceptable, how many times I had taken my concerns to my bosses, their responses, and how nothing had changed, which forced me to quit.
House and truck payments were still looming over my head, along with all of the other bills to pay, along with feeding my children.
As are the requirements of unemployment, you are to apply for a certain number of jobs per week.
I quickly jumped on to all of the job sites, went to a required job seminar at the Job Center in Green Bay, sent out resumes, and kept track of every place that I applied to, until I got a part-time job in April of 2013 through an employment agency.
I submitted 97 applications in 2012, and 39 applications in 2013.
I went nine months without a job. That is a chunk of time and a huge hit on the finances!
But…I was able to sell my house, move in with the hubs, and get married while I was unemployed!
One Particular Employer
There is one particular employer that I applied to for ten different positions between 2012 and 2013.
Each and every one of those positions I was qualified for, if not overqualified.
One rejection email after another.
After about the fourth or fifth rejection email, I called the human resources department of the employer.
EMPLOYER: “Hello, this is _____”.
“Hi, my name is Erika Dalebroux. I’ve applied for several positions through your careers site, and I am wondering, when you see my name, do you just automatically deny me?”
EMPLOYER: “Well, actually, yes.”
“Excuse me? Can you please tell me what I should be doing to be able to qualify for a position with your company?”
EMPLOYER: “We think that you are overqualified, and that you won’t want to stay with us very long, and we can’t pay what you’ve been making, and we don’t think you would be satisfied working with us.”
STOP RIGHT THERE.
Judgmental much? Mind reader much? What the ….? REALLY?!
The Other Side
Here’s me on the other side of this conversation with my intent in applying for jobs.
- I need to support my family.
- I don’t care what the pay is.
- I don’t care if I’m overqualified.
I NEED A JOB.
Same Conversation Yesterday
Jump back to April, 2019. Yesterday, I had the same type of a conversation with a business friend of mine who is hiring.
She said to me, “I have four applications, but they’re all way overqualified, and I don’t think they’re going to want to do what I do.”
My response back to her was this: Look at the other side. They may be overqualified, but with all of the job losses with Shopko closing, and the Shopko distribution center closing, someone may just need a job.
Sure, I’ve been a paralegal and owned my own business and done many, many things over the years that make me overqualified.
But I had a NEED – a need to support my family.
These people that have applied may have a NEED – a need for a job, a need to support their family, a need to buy groceries, a need to buy diapers, a need to pay rent.
You may just find that diamond in the rough.
This doesn’t just apply to employers looking to hire.
This applies in every relationship you have, to anyone who you run across in your daily life, anyone you run across ever. Before you respond,
LOOK AT THE OTHER SIDE.
Sending love and hugs ~Erika~